Forgiveness is Healing Power
Forgiveness is Healing and This Technique Can Help You Start Healing From Abuse and Past Trauma
Forgiveness is healing and is the greatest gift that you can give and that you can receive. Forgiveness is the gift that keeps on giving.
It gives you health. It gives you strength. It gives you motivation.
It opens up your mind. It helps you to be able to function at a higher level. It helps you to minimize stress, to alleviate some of the depression that you may be experiencing.
Healing by forgiveness is based on you letting go of all of the emotions that you’re holding anger, resentment, frustration, anxiety towards a person or persons and you’re keeping it bottled up inside.
Imagine Cow Dung in a Bottle
Well, if you did take a bottle, and you were to fill it with all kinds of chemicals , and all of the nastiest stuff that you can think of, even cow dung and put it in this imaginary bottle.
This bottle represents our hate, anger, frustration, and resentment that we’re holding and keeping it inside. You’re holding all of this yuck inside. You’re drinking it up all of that nasty, disgusting stuff, even swimming in it, like a swimming pool.
Yuck, if you had this bottle and pool of cow dung and other chemicals, you would never drink it or swim in it.
Sounds absolutely disgusting when you think of about that way, but it’s exactly what happens when we are choosing not to forgive. When we choose not to forgive, we are choosing to keep all that junk, and sewage inside ourselves.
When you put that much yuck and gunk in yourself, you’re gonna get sick.
You’re not going to be able to think as well or really be able to move forward in life. It’s holding you back. It’s going to be like an anchor that you’re just dragging along.
Remove the Anchor
When you remove the anchor, when you choose to pull that gunk out and get the hose and clean it off of you, you start to get rid of the toxic chemicals that have built up inside of you because of the anger, hate, anxiety and the frustrations.
You start to find a happier and a more joyous outlook on life and discover that there’s real value and purpose. Realize that there’s hope and you are choosing to allow them to hold you back.
It’s Time to Forgive
It’s time to forgive it’s time to move forward.
You may be frustrated with a brother, sister, mother, spouse, neighbor, cousin, niece, nephew, coworker, or a boss. It doesn’t matter who you may be frustrated with. The process is the same.
You’re choosing to take that junk, put it inside yourself and keep it there. You’ve got to let it go. You’ve got to get rid of it. And I’m going to tell you how you can do that.
Simple, Powerful Exercise
This is a simple exercise that is so powerful. I’ve seen it work with people who have been angry with their boss, spouse, their brother, parents, sisters, cousins, etc., I have seen it work with everybody.
It’s a simple but when you implement it exactly how I’m telling you, you will start to discover healing and you will start to realize how much you are allowing that gunk to make you sick, to hold you back to keep you down.
Forgiveness Healing Process
Step 1 – Get a blank sheet of paper.
Step 2 – Write a letter, Dear …
Whomever the person that you hate, or is making you mad, frustrated that you feel they have wronged you, that you haven’t forgiven them. Whoever it is, you’re going to write dear, and you put their name and then you start to write everything they did and how it has hurt you.
Write EVERYTHING! GET IT OUT!
It doesn’t matter the length, but write everything you can think about it. Call them every name you want to that you think of you have wanted to call them. I mean, even if it’s against your values, you get it out because it’s inside of you.
You have been holding onto these feelings for a long time, let it out.
Let’s get over the gross stuff that you have held inside for so long, because it will just make you sick. Literally, it will make you sick, so get it out. Get it out of you.
Write everything down on these sheets of paper. Don’t hold back, let everything out.
If it comes to your mind, write it down. If it happened, when you were a kid, write it down. If it happened when you were adult, you write it down. It doesn’t matter when, where, why, etc., write it down. Get it out of you and on paper.
At first you may start to feel sick because you’re bringing up a lot of junk that has been sitting inside of you undisturbed for a while but as you start letting it go, you’ll start to feel a difference.
More Emotions Stirred
Again, at first, it’s going to be kind of yucky. It really is.
You’re taking all this crap that’s inside and putting it on paper. And now you can see all of it. You might even get some of that anger building up and more resentment, just keep writing; write until you can’t think of anything else you want to say.
Step 3 – Spiritually Call Them
You’re going to call them not physically, NOT on the phone. You’re NOT going to tell them this in person.
You’re going to communicate with their spiritually higher-self.
Call them by name and ask them to come sit down so you can talk to them.
Here’s an example of inviting the person:
- Make sure nobody is around and you are in a safe place, where you feel comfortable.
- Hey Joe, whomever it may be.
- Will you please come talk with me? I need to talk to you. (Again, this is not physically in person. This is a spiritual process that works.)
- Invite them in to sit with you. (Imagine them sitting across from you. If you need to imagine there’s bars to protect you, then do it. They are spiritually present. Not physically present.)
- Read the letter you wrote with all of the emotion, anger, hate, etc. Don’t hold back. (Hence, why do it in a place you feel safe.)
- You don’t want anybody else hearing or reading this junk.
I know this sounds a little out there. Just try it. It works.
Spiritually, They Can Handle It
You’re unloading on them. You’re just letting them have it. All of it.
Every page that you wrote, you’re reading it to them. With the emotion, the anger, the frustration, the sadness, the tears, everything, you bring it, you bring it all and you give it to their spirit self.
Will You Forgive Me
Step 4 – Forgive You
The next part of this process is you’re going to ask them to forgive you for having the anger, resentment, frustration, etc. towards them. You are not excusing or taking responsibility for what they did.
You are asking for forgiveness for you holding this inside and not taking care of it sooner. Hey Joe, I’m sorry that I’ve held onto all of these feelings and emotions for all these years.
Will you please forgive me?
It is affecting your performance and other relationships around you so you need to ask for forgiveness. If you can’t forgive one person, it does affect other relationships as well.
Step 5 – Imagine him saying, “Yes.”
If they don’t say yes, even if they said, no, that’s fine. That’s up to them.
I know this sounds weird and it kind of is but I did it and it was a powerful experience. I’ve also seen many other people have an amazing experience doing this. It’s amazing, absolutely amazing.
Step 6 – Ask Your Higher Power to Forgive You
Next step in this process is to ask your Higher Power to forgive you for holding onto all of these negative feelings towards the individual.
Step 7 – You Imagine Your Higher Power Say, “You Are Forgiven.”
I personally believe in a loving Heavenly Father who is all forgiving, who does care, and loves you for who you are.
Whomever your Higher Power is, they care about you. They love you. So you imagine them saying yes.
Step 8 – Forgive Yourself
The final piece of this process is to ask yourself to forgive yourself.
[Say Your Name] will you forgive you?
If your name was Sarah, you would say, “Sarah, will you forgive yourself?”
Step 9 – You say, “YES.”
And then you say yes, then this is the best part of the whole thing.
Step 10 – Burn It, Shred It, Destroy It
Now take all of those pages that you wrote and destroy them.
As you are destroying it say to yourself, “I am choosing to let these feelings go. I am no longer going to allow these feelings to hold me back.”
It’s important to fill, yourself up with positive emotions and express gratitude for everything around you, express gratitude for your books, knowledge, the trees, grass, hills, mountains, etc. express gratitude for everything and fill yourself.
You can also listen to spiritual texts, dance, sing, listen to uplifting audio fill up that empty space that you just let go of with positive and healing gratitude.
If you don’t fill it up with something positive. It is too easy to pick up some of the junk we just let go of, and we don’t want to do that.
If you will implement this in your life, you will see miracles start to happen. You will see relationships start to mend. And it’s all because you are choosing to improve yourself.
You are choosing to design your life and live it the way you want to live it.
You are choosing to be happy, healthy, and strong.
You’re amazing. You really are amazing.
Please share this. There’s somebody out there that you know right now that can truly benefit from this. They can find value, hope and this will give them courage.
Below is another article that I wrote around Christmas time.
Forgiveness is Healing and is the Greatest Gift You Can Give
During this time of the year, so many people are focused on what they can buy someone at the store. The best gift you could give someone this year is forgiveness. Don’t worry about who’s right, who’s wrong, focus on just being the best you that you can be.
For you to be the best, you can’t carry baggage like grudges, anger, resentment, which will only lead to physical and emotional pain. It’s true. Forgiveness is the most significant gift you can give.
There are too many people suffering from pain, which can be alleviated if they are willing to forgive those in the past and look forward to a beautiful future. Emotional distress is manifested in physical pain; I share a story about a young lady that gets rid of her pain because she finally let her past go.
It’s important to realize that forgiveness is healing to you and those around you. Forgiveness provides healing mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.
Forgiveness brings joy and happiness.
If you’ve wronged someone or not, forgiveness will help you be the best you and the world needs … YOU to be your best!
You have so many talents and gifts to share with the world. You have abilities that you have not discovered that can help you improve your life and find great joy and happiness in the future.
Most Significant Gift
Like I mentioned above, in today’s video, I share some moving stories of healing from forgiving others from the wrongs that they may have done. Discover how one young lady suffered extreme abuse but has come out happy and caring for others, including her abuser.
Forgiveness is the greatest gift you can give this year.
In summation, if you want to find happiness and joy you must forgive others. You must move forward and stop dwelling on the past. Forgiveness is healing.
Forgiveness is the Greatest Gift for Healing
I’ve written about forgiveness before but I felt impressed to talk about it again and to share an exercise to help you forgive others. This simple exercise, though simple, is powerful. You know what it’s like being around someone that causes a negative emotion inside of you.
The original reaction is suppressed it, don’t let it out. However, this exercise talked about in the video will help you manage it properly so you can forgive those who have offended you and experience healing.
Forgive those who have offended you by doing the exercise I mentioned above.