How to Build and Strengthen Your Relationships
Your Relationships Matter the Most!
I’ve been doing a lot of reflection on relationships because right now my father in law, is in the hospital and has been there for several weeks. He was skiing and hit his head, causing bleeding in the brain. You never know if someone will be here tomorrow and you don’t want to regret not letting them know how much you care.
I can’t believe 2018 has already passed by so quickly too. As I was looking back over the year and doing some reflection on lessons learned, I realized one of the most significant lessons I have learned is, “Relationships and mending relationships should always be one of our highest goals in life, but especially 2019.”
You can have all of the money in the world, but if you don’t have someone to share it with, it does not matter. You will be miserable. Having money, health, wealth, intelligence, etc., will not matter if you don’t have someone to share it with.
Looking over last year (2018), what relationships do you need to mend? Who do you need to call and say, “sorry?” or “I love you?”
This is not about who’s right or who’s wrong, this is about building a strong relationship with others and forget everything else but the relationship. Connection with others is critical for long-term happiness don’t regret it by allowing pride to get in the way of that connection.
You’re amazing, believe it!
Having Powerful Relationships Should Be Your Focus
If I were to die today, what would I focus on?
I’ve been sitting here trying to think what I should share with you so I asked myself this question, “If I were to die today, what would I want to make sure to do?”
The very first thing that came to my mind was to make sure all of my family, friends and loved ones knew that I loved them. I would want to make sure that everyone I came in contact with knew how much I care about them finding true joy and happiness.
I would want to make sure my children knew the importance of believing in our Savior and I would share my testimony with them about how living a Christlike life will bring the greatest joy and happiness in this life.
The more I think about this question, the more I realize how valuable people and relationships are, NOT:
- Toys, etc.
Got Me Thinking
If relations are so important, why is it the last thing we seem to focus on a daily basis? This realization brought to my awareness of how I need to make some changes in my life. I love my beautiful, amazing wife; my talented, intelligent children, have I let them know?
Unfortunately, I allow the less important things in life to get in the way of building and supporting these relationships sometimes. It’s important to have a career so that we can earn money to provide food and shelter; however, is it so critical that we put so much focus on it that we spend most of our time doing it?
To answer this question, I dare say NO!
Where are you putting your focus? What are your priorities, is it work, family, relationships, hobbies or some other pursuit?
This post is not meant to bring shame if your focus is on work or some other pursuit, it’s meant to bring awareness. If you are aware of where your time is spent, then you can consciously make the decisions to improve your life.
Let me be clear, you do NOT need to put all of your efforts into every relationship. You should cultivate it regularly but frankly, some relationships are exhausting.
You need balance giving you the time you need to recover from stress. The fact is, you may need to go for a run or work on a hobby. The point being, stay mindful and aware of what you’re doing make your decisions instead of just reacting to others.
How to Build Strong Healthy Relationships – Communication
How to Build Strong Healthy Relationships, Communication.
Good morning, today’s video/podcast is about building healthy and strong relationships. The number one and most important aspect of any relationship is Communication. There are so many problems that can be removed if we would just communicate better.
Communicating better is not texting more, or email, it’s through calling or talking to them face to face. There is more communication that happens when we are face to face than via the written word. Non-verbal communication is critical in helping to build a healthy and strong relationship that will last through all of the challenges that come up.
Steps to having strong healthy relationships (C.A.L.L.):
- Communication – Speak clearly and make sure the person understands and restates what you’ve said or what they have understood. Communicate at their level. For example, if you’re communicating with a child, use words that they understand. If it’s a client, don’t use industry language, that’s why they are coming to you, they don’t understand the industry. We communicate with each other, not to them. Effective communication is receiving and giving.
- Apologize – Accept your role in the relationship and realize that you may be wrong and even if you’re right, say sorry if the other person feels they have been wronged.
- Listen – You must be present when you’re listening to what is being said instead of thinking about what you want to say. You must stay engaged in the conversation, not letting your mind roam.
- Love – Care for yourself and the person that your listening too, even your employers.
After years and years of watching people, the one thing I’ve discovered is how weak our communication has become. Communication is critical for having healthy relationships in marriage, at work, with family and friends. Our ability to communicate effectively can prevent hurt feelings, frustration, anger, and resentment.
The skill for effective communication is something that is being reduced by texting. Ther are many people that think they are communicating when they text, in fact, there are many problems because of someone taking a text wrong.
In conclusion, here’s a couple of things you can do to improve your communication.
- Take notes while talking to someone so that you don’t keep thinking about a comment.
- Let them know you are taking notes.
- Don’t attack.
- Be humble and realize your part in what’s going on.
- Love, love, and love more.
You’re amazing don’t forget it. Rise Up and start communicating more effectively.