22 Feb 2021

How to Create Happiness

Creating Happiness; Pursuit of Happiness

I have been going through a process trying to figure why am I doing this? Why do I want to help teens, adults, and families find hope, happiness, and purpose of life? In this process, I did some journaling, and I would like to share some of it with you:

Q: Who is it that I want to help?

A: Teens, Adults, and Families

Q: Why do you want to help teens?

A: There are a lot of problems and challenges in the world. I see too many teens suffer from depression, anxiety and overwhelm. They need to know how to manage and process those feelings. The more they manage the negative emotions they have, the better they can find joy happiness, love, and purpose in life. The more they see joy and happiness, the more healing and purpose they will experience so that they can help others.

Q: Why do you want to help teens experience more happiness?

A: Joy and happiness come from creation, and as human beings, we are the ultimate creators. Creators find immense happiness, creating a vision, building their life. Establishing love, safety, which eliminates the pain, headache, and suffering. Yes, it’s possible to when we are in creation mode.

If a person can focus on creating even small successes in life, happiness, joy, and love abound.

Q: A lot of people would say you have a boring life, what is it that you do?

A: I love my life. It’s simple, but I love it. I don’t fancy traveling around the world right now. Right now I am enjoying taking care of my family, those I mentor and my chickens. I love teaching techniques and speaking about skills that can promote healing. However, most of all, I love watching each person I work with transform.

Q: Why do you like watching those you mentor go through a transformation?

A: It’s what life is all about, being the best we can be, helping others and enjoying the journey. When someone transforms, you see them change from who they were to someone different. It’s not like they become a different person, but they become a happier, healthier, more confident person. They become creators, and you see the light in their eyes shine brightly as they help others.

I’ve watched someone who was depressed, suicidal, feeling like there was no purpose to life completely change. She became a confident, empowering, encouraging individual and now she’s spreading it to her friends.

When you help one person, you help generations.


In summary, This process of trying to understand why I am doing what I am doing was a phenomenal experience. I recognized that an essential part of what I need to do is help you become a creator. I can help you become a creator by letting go of your past struggles and challenges and empower you for the future. If you discover how to utilize your past as a force to push you, doors of joy, hope, and healing open up all around you.

What’s Your Story? What Do You Want?

Write, live and plan your story.

I’ve met a lot of people who complain about their circumstances and what’s going on around them. They complain about their relationships, family, friends, living situations, etc. The mere fact they are complaining tells me one thing; these individuals are reacting instead of living. I ask them what they want and I get a blank look, they have no idea, no story. They don’t know what they want so whatever they get becomes their life.

Create Your Story – Life’s Purpose

A life without purpose seems pointless, and that’s why it’s so essential for you to discover a purpose. It may start out as being a mother, friend, or pleasing your spouse; this can help you cope but does not give you that driving purpose you need.

Sit down right now and write your story, the more detailed the better, right now only focus one area of your life, instead of a general story. You could write your story about health, relationships, spirituality, etc. The decision is yours but start designing your life and know what you’re wanting to do in that area of your life.

I can help you discover your purpose and then add fuel to it, so you start living the life you’ve always wanted.

Self-Mastery Make It a Great Day

There are so many times you may allow others to influence what kind of a day you’re going to have. Good day, Great day, Okay day, Lousy, Miserable day, it’s your choice.

I can already hear the complaints coming.

Your boss did this, your child did that, my spouse did … these are all excuses. I understand this is easier said than done but if you can get to the point where you have this kind of self-mastery, you’ll see some amazing things happen in your life.


I want you to try to imagine getting yourself to the point where someone yells at you and you can literally just smile and go on. This kind of self-mastery is possible and takes practice, focus and a determination to want to change.

I have been working on this kind of self-mastery and it’s hard. I’m not going to lie but I get moments where I can truly demonstrate this discipline and it’s amazing. I have had some days that it was just the pits, nothing seemed to be working well and everything was a nightmare and I remember this and say, “I’m going to have a good day, starting now!” Wow, there have been some times where this has worked and I’m blown away. I can’t believe how I can shift my mind so quickly.

Recognize the Triggers

I have realized that if I can train my brain to be like this, even a few times, I can change it permanently, hence my quest for self-mastery. I have some triggers that send me through the roof and I’m working on them for this purpose.

Think about your triggers, those pressure points that when they are pushed send you through the roof, write them down. Now think of the lesser triggers and write them down. After you have written several down, think about which trigger you want to work on to gain self-mastery over. You only want to choose one right now, because it can become overwhelming and frustrating when you focus on too much.

You need to experience some success so you don’t give up. You’re amazing, rise up and accept my challenge to start gaining self-mastery today.

Tony Rhoton • Motivational Speaker, Mentor and Life Coach


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