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10 Feb 2021
Improve Your Self-Esteem

10 Tips to Improve Your Self Esteem

10 Tips to Improve Your Self-Esteem

I wanted to talk with you about what it takes to improve your self-esteem and self-worth, but when I looked up the definition of self-worth, self-esteem is listed as the reference. “Improving one’s self-confidence and value.” Wow, this is so vital that I am inspired to continue to keep going over this.

You aren’t doing the things that will improve your life and self-esteem. Are you?

It’s my plight again that hopefully you will listen to this and take action. The things I am teaching you will work and will improve your self-esteem. Don’t dismiss the simplicity of the exercises to gain more confidence in yourself. I want you to move forward.

Doing a little bit of research, and I came across a blog called, “Ditch the Label,” and in one of the posts, they have ten steps for improving self-esteem. I have talked about all of these before, but this is another witness for developing self-esteem.

There are three (3) components that make up a person’s self-esteem.

  1. Belief in self. – The first component for higher self-esteem is your own thoughts and feelings about yourself.
  2. Interpretation – Your interpretation of what you think others think about you. We assume and create stories in our mind about what others think about us when frankly they are worried about the same thing. Those that you worry about what they think about you, that person is worried about what you think about them. (Confusing I know)
  3. Belief in Heavenly Father (Higher Power) – The third component that forms our self-esteem is our belief in God and what he thinks.

If you have a high self-esteem, then you are probably pretty comfortable in each of these areas or at least strong in a couple of them. However, as you go throughout life, you may experience some low times, stop and be aware of your thoughts. What thoughts are going on in your head? What area above is being attacked mentally?

When you can identify the component that needs to be strengthened, you can pull out of your slump much quicker.

I will slightly use it as a reference, “10 Tips to Improve Your Self-esteem.”

Tip #1 – Improve Your Self-Esteem – Challenge Your Negative Thinking

It does not surprise me that their first tip is to challenge and change your negative thinking. Question your bad thoughts.

We have over 65 to 75,000 thoughts a day. Out of those 65 to 75,000 thoughts a day 45,000 to 50,000 of those thoughts are negative. Our negative thoughts tear us down and are destructive to us. When we get negative thoughts, be mindful of what you are saying to ourselves and start corrective measures. Step back and allow yourself to think objectively and to change the negative thought into a positive declaration. Instead of negative thinking when you make a mistake,

“I’m so dumb.” Change it to, “I improve by making mistakes.”

Adding a simple phrase like this helps you to stay focused on being better, instead of tearing yourself down.

Stay in a healthy, consistent striving and thriving mode, so you immediately recognize your negative thinking.

When the negative thoughts come up, catch them, be mindful of them, be aware of what they are and write them down. Write those negative thoughts on a piece of paper so you can get them out of you. Here’s an example of what to do. Remember to start out with I’m feeling …. because… and allow yourself to vent; Get it out of you and then shred that piece of paper, as you’re destroying it tell yourself,

“These are the thoughts I had before that I no longer want and I’m letting them go.”

and then throw them in the trash or burn them.

Tip #2 – Improve Your Self-Esteem – Self Care

The second tip to improve your self-esteem is to take care of yourself, also known as self-care. Self-care is critical in helping you improve your self-esteem. It is difficult to take care of others if we are not healthy our self. There are many things regarding self-care to be mindful of, here are a few I feel are most important:

  • Healthy Eating
  • Exercise
  • Scheduled Down Time

You need to be your healthiest self to be at your most mindful and aware state. Self-care is not a selfish thing. Taking care of yourself helps you to be able to help others. When you help yourself, you will have enough energy, excitement, love that you can then extend to others. The problem is if we don’t take care of ourselves we get overwhelmed and go into shutdown.

Our body physically lets you know you can’t handle this and you start to get sick. Another way you may shut down is by ignoring everything and watching TV, playing electronics (video games), and continuously on Facebook. Turning to these types of things is an unnatural form of comfort it does not give you exactly what we need for self-care.

If you build into your self-care watching a TV show, then mindfully tell yourself. I’m going to watch this TV show as a form of self-care; however, don’t let this be an excuse for viewing for hours. Again, be mindful of what you are doing and also give yourself an amount of time that you will watch and shut it down.

If you feel inclined to do social media, then go into social media being aware of what you’re doing and why. I would recommend setting a timer, so you don’t get sucked into the black hole of social media. To reiterate, set a timer, and so you can relax but put it away after the timer rings.

Move on with your life start doing some exercise, become healthy with your body, mentally, physically and emotionally. Once you connect it all, you will be healthy and strong.

Tip #3 – Improve Your Self-Esteem – Relax

Tip number three is to relax you have to relax. Stress comes at you in many forms, and it’s vital that we learn how to relax and use that stress to grow. I saw this chart on a video the other day from Guar Gopal.

Do you have a problem in life? Yes?
Can you do something about it? Yes? No? -> Then Why Worry

The point being, we all have problems and some of them we can do something about it and some we can’t so why worry? If you can do something about it, there should be no worry, and if you can’t do something, then you shouldn’t worry because there’s nothing you can do so, relax!

Tomorrow is going to happen no matter what. The sun’s going to come up and we can either curse it, dread it and fight it, but it’s still going to happen there’s nothing you can do about it. Relax and focus on the things that you can take care of but relax. Learn to look forward to that Sun coming up in the morning and all of the opportunities that lie ahead of you.

Some stressful situations empower me and make me say, “Alrighty, here comes another wonderful opportunity; however, there are also some that I have to create some coping strategies to sit with it. Coping strategies will help you to manage the situation and relax.

Tip #4 – Improve Your Self-Esteem – Goals

Tip number four is making sure you set goals. You have to have goals, so you don’t shut down and spend your life sitting around looking at social media or watching TV all day long. Goals motivate, inspire and push you to be your better self. If you don’t have goals, you can lose purpose in life, so we’ve got to set goals.

Without goals, your body starts to shut down. If your life doesn’t matter, your body starts to interpret that same feeling, “It doesn’t matter anymore.” If you don’t have any goals and can’t think of any, read this article, “The Best Year Ever.” In this article, I talk about how to create vision and goals for life. This article will help you to at least start to identify the things you want.

Tip #5 – Improve Your Self-esteem – Help Others

Tip number five is to think about others and help others. One of the best ways to help yourself is to help others. There are a lot of chemicals, like oxytocin, the bonding chemical that is released when we help others. You will feel good and so does the person you are helping.

Simply put,

“Get off your behind and get out there and help someone.”

Increase the endorphins and the feel-good chemicals within your body, get out there and help others; serve them in any way you possibly can. If you physically can’t help them then go out talk to them, be a friend. There are a lot of people that want to know they matter and that someone is thinking about them. You can make that difference. In summary, if you’re going to sit, sit in front of someone else to talk or listen to them and let them know you care.

Tip #6 – Improve Your Self-esteem – Third Party Perspective

Tip number six look at things differently. Take a different perspective on life and look at a situation differently. Step back and put yourself as if you were a third party watching. What advice would you give yourself? How would you help you? Identify what you could do or how you can influence others. Replace thoughts that would encourage and support you.

Tip #7 – Improve Self-esteem – Try New Things

Tip number seven, Try New Things. Be adventurous and try new things. Be willing to try new things, go beyond what you’re used and step out of your comfort zone. On the edge of comfort and discomfort is growth. Push yourself to go a little bit further out of your comfort zone. As you push your self a little more, you will enliven yourself and your body.

Tip #8 – Improve Self-esteem – Surround Yourself w/ Positive

Tip number eight, surround yourself with people that are positive. If you’re a negative person, identify why you’re negative, write it down let it go. Create some positive declarations like, “I’m positive and mindful and completely aware of my situation.”

Be aware of how you are treating your spouse, friends, and family are you abrupt with them? Be mindful and aware and surround yourself with those who love care and support you. If you are a negative person, apologize, say I’m sorry and let them know you’re working on upgrading your life, move forward but surrounding yourself with positivity

Tip #9 – Improve Self-esteem – Accept Yourself

Tip number nine, accept yourself for who you are. There are too many times that you beat yourself up. Accept yourself for who you are, accept yourself realize you are amazing; that doesn’t mean you don’t have room for improvement, we all do. If you deny yourself acceptance, then you deny yourself your incredibleness.

You are amazing you have a lot you can offer to the world, but you’ve got to take care of yourself and accept yourself for who you are. Accept yourself for who you are right now, not after you change, but right now. What step can you add today that you can start to experience change?

Here’s an example of learning to accept yourself:

If you say something like, “I’m feeling stupid.”

Change it to, “I’m very intelligent and smart.”

This simple recognition of your thoughts and changing it starts the acceptance process, and love for yourself for who you are right now. If you’re overweight, you like yourself with the weight, and you’ll love yourself without the weight.

Are you struggling with health? Love yourself with the poor health, and you’ll love yourself with good health.

It’s critical to discover how to love and accept yourself for who you are right now, with all of the imperfections.  If you wait to try to enjoy and accept yourself later, you’ll never get there, because you’ll always be saying, “When I … then I’ll accept myself.” It doesn’t work that way; you need to love yourself as you are right now.

Tip #10 – Improve Self-esteem – Reminders

Tip number ten, put up reminders of things to help you feel good and stay focused on positivity. Put these positive reminders up where you’ll see them:

  • Computer screen.
  • Mirror.
  • Bedroom.
  • Bathroom.
  • Car.

One way my wife is helping our family stay positive is she went through put positive sticker words on all of our cereal, etc. We don’t eat oatmeal we eat inspiration. We don’t pour milk on we pour love on our inspiration (cereal). The Cheerios are labeled with confidence, which helps our family keep those positive thoughts and reminders throughout our life.

Remain mindful and aware of your thoughts so you can align yourself with who you want to be after you’ve upgraded your life. Be that person on a daily basis. Remember to do the power poster

Thank you for reading; You’re amazing your willingness to read this shows that you’re willing to try something new. Accept yourself for who you are right now, ready to upgrade and love yourself.

Let me help you discover your value and purpose in life.

Tony Rhoton – Mentor, Coach, and Speaker 801.787.5765

How to Build Your Self-Esteem

Above we talked about Improving Your Self-Esteem, now we want to give you some tips to Build Your Self-Esteem

How to Build Your Worth; Build Your Self Esteem; Build Your Value

Today’s quick training is about building your self-worth, self-esteem and your value. You are infinite worth and it’s my goal to help you build your self-esteem and your value. You are enough.

Every woman I have met impresses me at how much they can do and how well they do it. They are doing phenomenal things in their life, raising children, helping at schools, nurturing, supporting, nursing and working. They can do so much and yet still connect with others. With all of their accomplishments, I would think they are invincible; however, these same women feel like they have no value or worth.

Here are some of the feelings I get from clients:

  • I’m not:
    • good enough.
    • worthy of…
    • smart.
  • I have no
    • value.
    • purpose.

The list goes on and on. How could God’s greatest creation feel this way about herself? After hearing all of this, I am determined to do my part to help you. You’re reading this still, so you’re ready to make some changes.

Simple Easy Method to Build Your Self-Esteem

Please do not discount the simplicity of this exercise for building your self-esteem and to changing your life forever. When I’m mentoring someone, I start with this exercise which starts the process of healing. It’s simple and easy to do but aides in helping to build your worth.

Step 1 – Get Poster Board

Get a poster board, something larger than a standard sheet of paper.

Step 2 – Draw Silhouette

Draw an outline of a silhouette. You can draw any silhouette you want. You can draw a gymnast silhouette, someone flexing, standing on one leg, it does not matter. The important thing is to get the silhouette that represents you.

Step 3 – Write, ‘I Am’

Above the silhouette write the words, “I Am.”

Step 4 – Fill

Fill in the outline with the words you would like people to describe you as. These are positive words like talented, smart, intelligent, problem solver, etc. These are the words that you would like friends and family to use to describe you to a stranger.

Step 5 – Mark It

After you have completely filled in your silhouette, pay attention to comments you start to receive that are inside of your outline. As you hear the comments made, remember who said it and mark it on your poster every night. Draw a line from the word outside of the edge of the silhouette to the name of the person who said it. Do this for every word in your silhouette.

Step 6 – Look

Look at your poster every morning when you wake up and every night before going to bed for at least 1 minute. Read the, ‘I Am,’ and the rest of the words inside your silhouette. This simple little exercise will help you build your worth.

Bonus Steps

If you want to take this opportunity to the next level, here are some bonus steps.

Step 7 – Implementation

Every day of the week, change the way you read the poster. Here are some examples of how to read it:

  1. Epic voice, loud and proud.
  2. Soft voice, quite as a mouse.
  3. Use an accent to say it.
  4. Squeaky Voice, like a little child.
  5. Sing it.

By implementing different ways of saying it, you are training your brain to accept these new positive characteristics, improving your self-esteem and worth. The more you can get your mind to start receiving these words, the faster you can start experiencing the life you want.

Step 8 – Use Music

As you are reading your poster, play some beautiful, classical or non-lyric music. The music doesn’t matter as long as it’s just the instrument and no lyrics.

Please do not minimize the value of this opportunity because of its simplicity. I have seen many lives change as they start to implement these opportunities in their life. I hope you will too. Please ask any questions. I’m here to help you.

You are amazing and enough, just the way you are. This opportunity will help you be even more!

If you need help finding purpose, hope, and excitement for life, call me today.

I’m here to help you.  801.787.5765

You’re amazing, believe it.

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